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To My Sister: A Wedding Day Toast

For me, one of the most special things about Taylor and Seth’s relationship is that I was able to be a part of it from the very beginning.  If you don’t know this already, Taylor and Seth met on Travel Camp in 2008.  I also happened to be on that trip as a camp counselor.  I was able to witness the “crush” and the flirting and the first date…You could say that Seth sure saw a lot of me in their early days of dating.  🙂

I knew that Taylor and Seth were bound to get married when Seth joined our family for a trip to New Mexico to visit Jeremy’s family.  One night, Taylor slept on the couch, Seth was on the floor in an air mattress and I was sleeping curled up in the recliner.  In the middle of the night, Seth propped himself up on his elbow and started speaking jibberish in the direction of Taylor on the couch.  I laughed because I thought it was hilarious that he was talking in his sleep but what happened next was even better.  Taylor sat up in her sleep, looked at Seth and responded to him in jibberish!  They went back and forth speaking each others’ sleep talking language!

Seth, you have felt like a brother to me for such a long time and I am excited that it is finally official.  Welcome to the family.

And now, to my sister.  When Mom and Dad went to the hospital to have you, my 5-year-old self was convinced I was getting a new baby sister.  But due to confusing umbilical cord positioning, Mom and Dad tried to prepare me for a brother named Trevor in the event that I was wrong…But I knew in my heart that you were my sister.  And if not, they were just going to have to take you back to the Cabbage Patch (where babies come from) and exchange you for the sister I actually wanted.

Obviously, I was not wrong and I got the sister I had always wanted.  Or so I thought.  At times I ended up wishing they would take you back to the Cabbage Patch anyway!  No one ever told me that having a baby sister would be so annoying.  I had had 5 years as the baby of the family and the only girl, and all of sudden I had to start sharing everything with her!  Those of you that know us both know that from a very young age, I have been very Type A and Taylor is a pretty Type B.  I always had a plan, strictly followed the rules (even made up the rules at times) and I had a certain way I wanted to play with my toys.  Taylor would always mix up things that I already had established like which Barbie was married to which Ken.  It used to drive me crazy.

It’s true that we had our differences growing up.  But when I moved to Lincoln for college, I realized that I really missed having someone around who I was supposed to share everything with.  Taylor, I realized that the times you used to drive me nuts are some of my favorite memories with you.  You know, God always knows what He’s doing.  He knew that I needed a sister to help me see that sometimes life doesn’t fit into my Type A “always have a plan” little box.  And you have really been there for me during moments in my life when I was truly disappointed because despite my best laid plans, things didn’t turn out the way I had expected.  You’ve taught me to loosen up, live a little, laugh a lot, and when faced with the choice, say yes to the “Super Salad.”  I have discovered that it really is all the things that make you different from me that I love the most about you.  I am so glad that you are the sister I knew in my heart I was going to get.

I don’t really have any marital experience so I am not going to spend a lot of time trying to give you marriage advice.  You both have grown up with wonderful examples of love and commitment from Mom and Dad and Kevin and Donna.

But I can say this…Marriage is just like having a sister.  You know what, never mind, it’s pretty different in a few key ways.  But, maybe marriage is similar to having a sister in the sense that…One, you are suddenly going to have to share everything with each other.  And two, you will undoubtedly realize that you are both very different from each other.  At times, it is going to be frustrating and annoying.  There may even be moments that you wish you could take each other back to whichever Cabbage Patch spouses come from…(I don’t know, I have not yet discovered that particular patch).

But remember, God always knows what He’s doing and He brought you two together for His purposes.  Even when your differences frustrate you, I am sure that the things that make you different from each other will be the things you grow to love most about each other.  And always remember that in your hearts, you are convinced that “this is the husband you always wanted” and “this is the wife that you always wanted” and you wouldn’t want to have to share everything with anybody else.

So, if you would all please raise your glasses for a toast.  To Mr. & Mrs. Seth Ross.  I pray God’s blessing for your marriage.  Here’s to many years of happiness for you both and to many new nieces and nephews for me!  🙂

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